Don't take it personally when your young person doesn't want to hang out with you anymore. It is perfectly normal for them to want some independence and autonomy from you.
To be sure you don't misunderstand them, what that simply translates to is that they just need some distance to process everything that's going on. Don't dismiss this as insignificant. That space is so important. You want them to fly but it will never happen if you are constantly clipping their wings.
Have faith in your young person. Trust they will make good decisions when they are with their peers but don't abandon ship the moment things go wrong. It is so tempting to get heavy at this point, but understanding is what works best. This doesnt mean that there are no consequences, just that you understand nobody is perfect. Remember their bodies are changing and they are developing at an alarming rate but it doesn't mean however that their minds are necessarily keeping pace.
They will fall of track, and that's ok. Make it easy on yourselves and anticipate this. No surprises.
If you're worried about the company they keep, get them involved in something constructive early i.e. sports, arts, spirituality. As they move through adolescence you will get to know their peers. They will most likely be those who share the same interests and who have similar goals. Then you can rest confident when they are away from you and spreading their wings, that are going to be ok.
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