Peer Dynamics: What Works

The peer group is one of the most powerful units in a young persons' life.
Outside of the family or in the absence of strong relationships within, the peer group either adds to or at worst substitutes their role, therefore it is imperative that we stay close.

The rules of engagement are simple: Do what they do, if you want to belong.

A young persons' need to belong is never more important than it is at this time of their life. Don't underestimate it's significance. It is their right to be accepted by their peers.

We know that the peer group can really add value to your young persons life if they choose wisely and consequently it can do the opposite if they do not. We know the potential of where that road leads so it's important that we are supportive. Don't smother them or try to force them into an unnatural group. That is the fastest road to rebellion.

Invest your energy rather in nuturing your young person to be a strong leader not a follower. Everyone has a role to play here so don't slack off. Encourage them to have a mind of their own, to stand up for what they believe in and to be strong in their convictions. They will be more likely to influence than be influenced by others.